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Your First Date

Questionnable Characteristics

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Paid Dating Services vs Free Services

Paying The Bill

Avoid Scams

Meet in a Public Place

When it's time to schedule that first exciting face-to-face meeting, arrange to meet in a public place and provide your own transportation. Stay in a public place for your first date and avoid secluded areas such as parks. Your gut instincts will kick in. Never accept an offer to be picked up at your house. Make sure that a friend knows where you are at and who you are with.

Look for Questionable Characteristics in Your Communication

As you chat via email and on the phone you may be able to start to pick out characteristics of the other person. Are they controlling? Do they seem to anger easily? Do they avoid some of your questions? These can be questionable characteristics that tell you it's time to move on.

Ask for Recent Photos

There's nothing wrong in asking someone if their photos are recent. It's important for you to get a good look at the person you may eventually meet. Passion Realm strives to verify member identity including images and audio/video files but members sometimes change information in their profile. Request at least 2-3 recent images. If a person lies about their photos or profile then that is a red flag to no longer pursue the relationship.

Free online dating services provide a greater opportunity for potentially dangerous individuals. They don't ever have to provide a credit card or other information that identifies them. There is some truth to the saying, "you get what you pay for".

Go dutch by paying half of the bill.

On your first date it's best to share the bill. Otherwise some people may expect something in return. Therefore it may not be a bad idea for you to go dutch. Pay half the bill so that you won't feel under any obligation to "return" the favor. If you are drinking, keep your drink in sight at all times and don't get so drunk that you don't know what you are doing. Better yet, try to avoid alcohol on your first date.

Don't give out your private information until you get to know better your online partner.

It's safer to give out a cell phone number instead of your home phone number. Thus you may avoid potential harrasing late night calls. Some phone companies allow reverse search by phone number. Unwanted people may therefore use your home phone number to locate your address.

Beware of Married People. It's unfortunate, but a lot of married people do use online dating services.

Avoid Scams

Report any improper online conduct to our Support Team.

Although the internet is a good playground for well intended purposes, it is also used by scammers. Sometimes con artists join dating websites only with the intent of obtaining fraudulently money from unsuspecting victims. They use fake online identities, false photos and do their best to induce their victims into believing they are online to search for a partner.

In order to avoid being a victim, use only Passion Realm live web cam chat in order to verify if the person you see in the web cam matches the images uploaded in their profile. Please report any scammers or any other suspicious activity. We remove scammers' profiles, record their emails, Ips and report them to appropriate law enforcement agencies.

Warning Signs to watch for

  • Scammers use photos of models from modeling sites or from magazines.
  • Scammers often ask for your email address right away, or give you theirs. They want to communicate off site as soon as possible. Beware they may be building email lists.
  • The member has a hard luck story, they make you feel sorry for them, and they ask for help or money, or get you to offer it because you are 'such a nice person'.
  • The member offers you money. They will do this to gain your trust. They will send counterfeit cashiers checks which will eventually bounce at your bank and get you into trouble.
  • The member is from your country but travels for their job (working an oil rig, buying antiques, etc.). They have lost their ID and money and have been arrested or injured and urgently need money to get back home.
  • The member is from Africa (especially Nigeria). There are large banks of computers with people paid to sit at the computer all day and scam innocent hard working people. It is a $100 million dollar business!!
  • The member is from Russia or Ukraine. There are agencies who enter large numbers of fake profiles on dating sites. They use good looking pictures of women to scam lovesick men into sending them money to come to their country or to help them with their personal or family problems. The scam could also include credit card fraud, excessive charges to an affiliated travel company, etc. The photo is a fake and is not the person you are writing to. The girls are not real and you will never see the person you are writing to.
  • The member speaks or writes in very broken English. A lot of scammers will run their profiles through automated translators, and their profiles and emails will sound very strange.
  • Many scammers copy their profiles from other real profiles so they will sound perfect. They use model photos or photos sent to them by past victims.
  • Scammers often write flattering letters to people out of their age range, to those who have stated loneliness in their profile, or to recently widowed
  • Scammers give you a lot of personal information right away making you comfortable and willing to share your own personal info with them. They will often make up a first and last name and put it in their profile, to make you feel safe. They will often use common names like "Greg Williams" or "Jane Smith" or "Kenneth Cole". If someone puts their first name and last name in a profile, it is probably a scammer!
  • Scammers wants you to leave the site to use personal email or IM because "it's so much easier" - may actually state they will not accept responses through this dating site.
  • Mail to you is often poetic, sing-songy, pretty words with no meaning, general flattery, generic, does not directly address questions or concerns you have voiced or remarks you have made, uses a lot of seductive or pet nicknames for you instead of your name. They keep things general so they can send the same letter to many people (mass mail).
  • Scammer gives you the name of another website and asks you to meet them there (ask yourself why when you are both here on a free site) or they will invite you to view them on a webcam or porn site. Be aware that some of these sites are setup only to gather personal info. You may be asked to enter your email address, credit card information or other personal info. You may end up with spyware or a virus on your computer.

What you can do

The best thing to do is avoid these people, don't waste your time on them. If you see scammers on this site, report scammers to us, so that we can remove them from our site.